Question by a PooraPagal Visitor :

Age:: 19-25

Gender:: Female

Ethnicity:: Caucasian / White

Alright theres this scenario…around 4 years ago this girl opens her msn buddy list and she finds some strange id there and by chance this person was online as well… this girl thought that it might be some of her girlfriend who just playing around her with disguising her self.. they get involve in a conversation while she found out that its none of her friends its some other guy who just found her id over the net while looking for some other id and just added ( she still never knows why would someone add somebody of the net) …. well she believed him…he seemed to be honest and sharif type guy…
Heres the story takes its turn after few more chat n stuff she figures out that this guys family has acquaintance with her dad..omg… and she knows that dad doesn’t want any relation with them (his family used to live in the same area in london while this guy is in pakistan) so the girl is in london and the guy in pakistan …
Few days she thinks about it than she just let it slide through that so what if that the case they are just ONLINE FRNDS… who’s going to know …she didn’t know how is it going to be a big factor in her life…

After some months they become good frnds and she introduces other frnds to him…

This guy kinna started liking this girl and even girl kinna had these feelings but the girl is very against all this love kinna thoughts over the net and stuff so she always avoided these kinna talks ..but her frnds will always tell her how this guy feel about her and stuff… but she refuses to admit but in heart she was kinna having little feelings towards him …but never said it to him..

So the case with this guy is he would never tell this girl in clear words how he feels about her but indirect ways he would say many things which girl do understand but act as an ignorant of all that.. and just laugh on it… the guy at some point did get hurt from the reaction of the girl towards him… this guy would ask her to send him her pic but she wouldn’t do caz she doesn’t want him to feel that if shes interested in him as well… so the guy thinks she talks to him bcz she just wanna play around … but the girl only talks to him caz they had become good frnds and didnt want to give that frndship away and let somthing else come in the way since she knows that his family has contact to her family and if anything happen its not going to give happy ending… shes kinna afraid ….

After around 2 years they developed more frndship but never seen each other…and the girl would never ask him for his pic but the guy would ask which she will avoid…
After some time the girl realize may be she isn’t doing good with him that since she know the guy having true feel for her and keep on disappointing him and hurt him evry time ..she thought to just stop talking to him for a while and just keep a little contact so he wouldn’t feel that she trying to leave frndship… for week and months she wouldn’t talk …and when she does the guy would ask her where she been so she would acted out like i was busy and so what if she didnt come online ..what difference does it make…
so then on they will tak very little …but since the start they will just talk very genral never talk any nonsense just talk about each others family and whats been happening lately …this kinna relationship they had…

Now its been around 4 to 5 yrs they been in very little contact … but every time they talk they felt good…this silly girl who always lie that she doesn’t believe in all that love crap actually awaits to talk to this guy but when she does never show …alway hide her feelings… now the thing is this girl liked him since first day but never got to know it and even if she knew it she never wanted to admit it… and now since its been more than 4 yrs she always waiting for him but hes not there …n she just think he might be bz just like she is with family and stuff you know…but the thing is she can’t do anything she doesn’t have his any contact …even if she does she would never try to contact…she wouldn’t even express her feeling to any of her frnd or sister or anyone else… but she would always have him in his heart and mind.. always think of him… she starts smiling when she thinks of him…i know this caz im a frnd of her even if she wouldn’t tell me i would know since im a frnd with both…i know how they both feel .. the guy is afraid to hearing no from her thats why he wouldn’t say anything and the girl is afraid of her family since her family doesn’t wanna to have any relation to them…and she doesn’t want to insult his family through her family…. rather she would stop her contact to him but how can she talk him out her mind and heart..?

He still resides in her heart…her family is looking for a guy for her and when i would ask anything that how she feels than she just smiles … please advise that how far is she right and is she really in love even after 2 yrs they not in any contact she still thinks awaits him… but i know even if he comes baq she again going to dis him… i dont understand her problem actually? she even likes him and still doesn’t want to express knowing that he also likes her…

.. than why does she even awaits for him

.. and who knows after all that hurt is he ever going to come baq or no..he might have thought of something else since he never got any response baq? wot would you call this? love,insanity or what .. or if you call this love than wot kind is this? wot stage is this? how could you over come this?