4 Responses to “Q : Lots of confusion”

1. Grace Posted: Mar 20th, 2008 at 12:43 pm

   1 Well I can just imagine the trauma you must be going through, waking up to realize that you have lost a big chunk of your life.The fact you have a letter you wrote for yourself should help you for you definitely trust your own handwriting more than you can trust peoples words. Yes God has chosen you to go thru this tough test as you are special to him .As this a petty confusing time for you, I would advice you to take it a little slow. Have trust in God & go with what your heart says because your instincts will tell you what is correct.You seem like a very sensitive girl & am sure the people who you mention, your family , friends know you well enough to know what you must be going through so do not think about hurting anybodys feelings, but go with the flow of things. Its understandable that you do not understand all at once the many many changes that happened in your life in just a few minutes or maybe days. So give yourself time to read & go through all you have written, keep in touch with the people you have mentioned about in your letter& get to know them yet again. Maybe then the feeling of comfort will come. Apart from that , dont go by what people say, ut what you feel have belief & trust in God & I am sure the ones who care for you genuinely , you will see them reach out to you & help you find your way through this confused state.

2. Renu Posted: Mar 20th, 2008 at 1:12 pm

   2 Hey Reader, umm..you and I are sailing in the same boat. I wish and feel I can come and sit next to you and tell you that everything is gonna be okie. umm..but i know atleast you will read this and know that i truly mean it. I am currently going through the same situation. I not only forgot my past 5, 6 years of my life but I am clouded with my childhood memories as well. I dont recognize my own pics, my own voice at times. Its been 12 days and feels like ages at times and at times feels like a day is less to learn something new about me. Initially, i was overwhelmed just like you not knowin whom to believe and whom to talk to about how I felt. But somewhere in this confusion, I had to seek help of God and try not to clutter my brain with zillion thoughts. I knew believing anybody was difficult for me. Like you said too many different answers. But all i kept thinking in my mind was, I am here, i exist so i have a reason for this existence, there have been people in my life who have made me for what I am today. I didnt know who they were but i keep in mind that this is what i have to find out because I am living a second life again. I keep saying this to myself, who gets to live this life over and over again? If God chose it to be me then I accept it and I will win this. Mind and heart both will start working slowly. Looking at the pictures often and havin small hints with it also helps to recall a lil..You need not necessarily go and talk to everybody about it but if there are people who keep messagin you with every detail they know about your life even before your 3 yrs back incidents, try trustin them. I know it is easier said than done. But i have done it myself and am still doing it. It is not easy but somewhere you have to start trusting few correct? If you think I cant trust anybody, how will that help you? If you have any questions, keep asking questions, nobody will say anything to you even if you ask thousand questions a day. People understand what you are going through. Try to meditate as much as you can. It relaxes your brain after constant thinking. Because when you have mem loss, your brain actually is tryin to work harder than before because you are tryin to find answers. So ur brain needs to relax and rest as well. At times, surrender urself to God.. When you meditate and close your eyes for whatever time, it surely relaxes your brain and releases your stress level. It is not easy to recall everything but keep sayin this to urself that it is not impossible either. You have to fight this and you will is what ur mission should be. Life is never dark. It feels dark because rt now your mind is clouded with thoughts. You need to give urself sometime to realize that people who are tryin to help you out unconditionally are the ones you can trust on and life will not seem darker then. Dont be scared to take steps ahead. It will onli help you learn more about urself. I am going thru this and i am in ur shoes rt now. So have faith in what I have said. And try doing things which i just mentioned. Later on you will not regret tryin this! God believed, you are the strongest so he put you thru this ordeal. Show him that his challenges and hurdles are something that are proud of and can overcome all this:) Always keep a smile on your face, it helps people who are helpin you out as well:) All the best

3. aarzoo Posted: Mar 20th, 2008 at 8:14 pm

   3 Hmmmm……I know what ur going through..right now every thing is foggy n unclear…My advice to u is take a day at a time…don’t rush things…just follow ur heart..u’ll definately feel a strong connection to certain people around you…Try to capture those feelings….n right now i do understand ur concern….”Trust”…..First thing is trust ur own handwriting n that letter…n stop thinking abt what others say n try to analyze people who r trying to help u come out of this phase…Trust ur heart n instinct…I assure u one fine day when u get up from bed it will be a new day with all the past coming back…After all there’s always God to help u out…Lil angels are always guided by special angels…Don’t stress out too much..Try to live each new day with full zest n new confidence….the people around u will bring bkk ur memories…just start trusting the friends u have written in ur letter…have faith in God then urself the ur loved ones mentioned in ur letter…N don’t shut urself up..this will not help u much..interact with people lil by lil…one lil step a day…U’ll come close to the truth very soon…My prayers r always with u..Bless u with loads of energies to fight this phase of ur life n strength to bring u back in present…Just remember nothing is impossible with Allaah’s help…n ur under his care…InshAllaah u’ll be perfectly allright…God bless…:)

4. Anam Posted: Mar 21st, 2008 at 12:43 am

   4 Hi there :), I can just imagine what you’re going through but like Grace, Poorapagal and others have said, you have to trust yourself more than anything in the world. I think instead of trying to figure out whom to trust and whom not to, you should trust yourself and your heart the most. The letter that you’ve written, that is something that should help you. Whatever you’ve written in there, believe in that. Don’t believe anything else. You recognize your handwriting, you know the words are written by you, and that is all you should try to understand. Don’t be scared to take a step ahead. Do it slowly and it will be easier. One step at a time and before you know it, you will have your life back to normal. It sounds easier than done but you must have faith. “Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed” Believe in this quote, its a very meaningful quote, read between the lines and you will know what I mean. Often we learn who we really are and then live with that decision and you should do the same. Don’t stress yourself over what is or what it might be. As far as hurting people, if they are your true friends and they know what is going on then nothing is going to come in the way. They will understand that you don’t mean to hurt them. We always only hurt those the ones we love the most. Believe in yourself. Follow your heart. Godwilling, you will get the answers you want. Friends are God’s gift to us, we must take advantage of that gift. Friends don’t hurt each other. So don’t feel as if you’ll say something to hurt them and lose them, because you will not. They will stand by you each step of the way and help you whenever you need it. You, yourself said that you’re quiet a positive girl then that is all you need. Positivity. Don’t think negative thoughts. Take it slow and one day at a time. You seem to have many people who love you dearly and care about you and they will stand by you each step of the way. Seek their help, if needed to get the answers you want. Ask them about things that you’re confused about and that might help you understand things a bit better. More than anything else, believe in yourself, keep your faith in God and everything will be OK. As for cutting ties with people and isolating yourself, don’t do that. That will drive you insane. Rather, talk to people. Talk to the new friends you’ve made, but take it slowly. Don’t try to overwhelm yourself. Do it at your own pace. Don’t hesitate to interact with people. Trust God, trust yourself, trust the letter that you have and everything will be ok. Your friends and family are your strength, they will help you get through this. Believe in yourself and everything will work out just fine. God Bless! May God give you the strength to fight and overcome all this confusion and bring you back to normal and give you the happiness that you deserve. There is nothing called a problem, its only a challenge or an opportunity to learn and understand the life and people around us. Remember, NOTHING in life is impossible and after every Sunset, there’s a Sunrise. God Bless you and I pray that you get your answers soon and come out of this dilema.