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Age:: 33-39
Gender:: Female
Ethnicity:: Pakistani / Indian
I have a simple query. How would you advice someone on dealing with a spouse who has unfound suspicions about you & your activities.Constant accusations & irritations have begun to take a toll on my self confidence & I want to do something about that.Can you help me?
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Reply from PooraPagal
The thing that other peopel are going through the same thing could help a little bit in dealing with this BUT ofcourse isn’t the reason good enough to say that you also have to go through this. Yes things like that in a relationship take the toll on everything involving self confidence and things that make up your personality. You might be so affected that friends and people around you can try all they can but you will only see what spouse is saying or doing.
There are ways to deal with this, maybe one of the things you can try to do is. Talk it out, as sometimes a spouse gets the idea to zip their lips when you give it to them back in the same tone or language. If that is not possible in this case, then atleast try to get your views across without being too upfront. If you are aware that the spouse is just saying things to wind you up then there is nothing you can do to change their mind if you know that’s how they are, the only thing you can do is change your own reaction.
Our reactions are atleast something we control. So change your reactions, try out new formulas and see what works. Do not try things you have tested before, because that would be waste of time. If kids are involved then try to talk with spouse away from them or somewhere they can’t hear you two. As it will affect them badly.
As for the suspicious activities and activities only YOU can decide what to do in order for him to not have a reason to say these things, as some people don’t have a reason they just want to make others feel bad. So trust yourself, and your friends if they are genuine will be there with you through this tough time that won’t last.. As every dark night has a bright lovely day.
